Crazy Hobbies
Does anyone else ave a significant other whose hobby takes all their time and money?
My Husband is obsessed with motorcycles. He works at a motorcycle shop, at the moment he has 4 different motorcycle projects which he is working on, he has at least 2 up coming motorcycle events which are out of town and require him to take time off from work. Maybe I wouldn't mind so much but I have to beg him to give me $20 a week to stick back for emergencies, He has never taken a day off from work to do something with his family-we have a 2 year, and he never watches the baby so I can do more than run to the grocery store. I am just feeling a little used I suppose. I don't go and buy things I could really use, like some clothes or new tennis shoes because there is never money and what little is left after his hobby I feel we need for that baby. He will walk in from work and go straight to the garage and work for hours on one of his bikes. We don't argue or fight, this isn't why he spends all his time doing this, he is just obsessed with bikes. Any ideas?
Public Comments
- You need to sit down and talk with him about this.
- Have you ever had a serious talk with him about it? My fiance is the same way with sports cars & it drives me nuts but we have separate finances. I have my money, he has his. So, I don't feel like I can tell him what to do. It is crazy though. He spent $6,000 on his car in February, about $1,000 in March & April each & this month it's $600 plus he bought a new stereo for it yesterday. I understand where you're coming from b/c I'm on a really tight budget & just got laid off. I know it's his money but sometimes I think if I only had a tiny bit of that money, I could buy some new tops, shoes, skincare stuff. It's frustrating to think I could get a whole wardrobe for our honeymoon & what he gets is a car part about the size of my fist. ARGH!
- Boys and their toys! When my husband and I first had our kids, our money was limited and he liked to have toys. At that phase of our life, I just let him have his toys. My husband worked lots of hours to allow me to stay home with the kids, so I let him have his hobbies and didnt complain. I figured we could have more money to get other things if I was working, but I loved being home for those years, so I let it go. Once the kids got older I got a job and things slowly changed. Now I have a good income and have my own hobbies. Dont worry, your baby wont be 2 forever. Just make the best of it and enjoy being there with the baby. Once the baby is in school you'll be able to work and buy what you want.
- My Husband was obsessed with bowling. He would bowl ever Friday night, and he would practice almost every day after work. As far as money went, he spent a good deal of money on out of state tournaments he would go to. He finally quit almost 2 years ago, seeing it was taking a toll on us, not only financially but as a couple. But honey, you have to BEG him for a miserable $20?! That's ridiculous! Maybe you should consider getting a job. I don't know what to tell you. I'm the one who manages the money, so I never have to worry about stashing cash away. And I really didn't have to do much to convince him that his hobby was hitting us hard. Talk to him, is all I can say.
- He's passionate about his hobby and very involved. Harmless, of course, but it's very distracting to the attention you deserve. You have a little hobby too - the 2yr old. No doubt, you're a loving devoted wife/mom. Indulge yourself in that little one's world...completely. I assure you, your discoveries will prove facinating. Evenings should belong to you and your husband -that's your time. The toddler will be exhausted from his adventerous day with you and sleeping peacefully in the next room. That will give you and your husband a few hours of uninterrupted quality time.
