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Why are (most) women so materialistic?

It seems like most women are all about shoes and make-up. I mean, at least guys have hobbies and goals at the center of their lives. Women on the other hand, no matter how much they care about other things, the very center of their existance is always themselves, and more specifically, "how do I look?" How shallow...

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that's so not true. a lot of girls have hobbies and goals...not all girls are about how they look. Most of the girls I know aren't and it's really dumb that guys think that all girls are like that.
Sorry bro can't answer you - sorry for being materialistic but I need 2 points!
This isn't a politically correct question, so it doesn't warrant a politically correct answer... here goes! In my opinion, women rely a lot more on looks than man do when it comes to attracting a mate. That's why shoes and hair and all that crap is so important to them. For guys it's different. I've known plenty of ugly slobs who attract fantastic women on the basis of personality or special abilities alone. In other words, they don't have to worry as much about how they look.
Well, I'm not like that, but I think a lot of women are very focused on their looks, like you said. There's a lot of pressure for women to look a acertain way. And to a lot of women, shopping is a hobby. A lot of men and women just have different intrests. I don't quite understand it all either because I can't stand shopping or having a different pair of shoes for every outfit, but that's juts the difference between men and women I guess.
WE ARE NOT WE JUST LIKE STUFF
not all women are totally like that. However we ladies like to FEEL appreciated, even in the physical aspects. we also like to feel some kind of safety, even financial, so we can be sure that we will be taken care of. it is natural, and if a woman will tell she is totally not like that, be worried! she might not be speaking the truth or she had a sex change surgery therefore she is originally a "he".
the materialistic women are the ones who know that mens love is not going to last, but his presents and her shoes will. How women look is a huge part of their life cause we are judged and treated differently depending on how we look. Men are the superficial ones who made us this way, if we look like a whore your going to treat us like a whore and if we look like your mom your going to treat us like your mom... We do have interests, men are just don't care to listen/learn about them.
First of all, you can't get most guys to even notice you unless you are one of those girls who do those things that you find 'materialistic'. Would you date a girl who looked like she threw her hair in a pony-tail, threw some random clothes on, and walked out the door, NO. The fact is that men are very shallow and you have to always prance around like a show dog to get them to even notice you. They do it for you, so stop complaining about it. Just wait until you get married and your wife will probably stop all that anyways, then you can complain some more about how she doesn't.
I'd say you need to start hanging out with a different group of women. Only women who feel they NEED to look hot any sexy to get a man and have men confirm that by only wanting to date hot looking girls, are shallow, materialistic and self centered. I think if you set your sights on women who give back to society, through their religious organization, charities and non profit organizations by actually giving their time (not just writing a check) you will find the kind of woman you want.
I agree. Many women are all about the shoes, and the hair, and makeup. However, there are alot of women that aren't like that. You just have to know where to find them. Also, alot of the time the materialistic women are the ones who get the men, so that's why they keep this bullshit up.
I think it is mostly to do with security and status. The more stuff or the more costly makes them feel better about themselves.
MY GOALS IN LIFE ARE TO KEEP MY FINANCES IN ORDER SO THAT I CAN BUY A BIGGER HOUSE, TO EVENTUALLY HAVE MY MOTHER AND MY MOTHER IN LAW LIVE WITH MY HUSBAND AND I IN THE FUTURE, I DO THIS BY WORKING 48 HOURS A WEEK TO PAY OFF WHAT WE OWE NOW. MY HOBBIES ARE GARDENING, AND PAINTING--LOW COST STRESS RELIEVERS. SO I FEEL LIKE --IN THE RARE EVENT THAT I ASK MY FRIENDS "HOW DO I LOOK?", WHEN I DO GO OUT---- I DESERVE THAT MOMENT!!! IT'S A MOMENT WERE I DON'T HAVE TO WORK OR GET DIRTY BY DOING YARDWORK. MEN HAVE TRUCKS,CARS, TOYS, ETC..... YOU THINK THAT THE BUMPER STICKER THAT SAYS "WHOEVER HAS THE MOST TOYS WINS" ON GUYS CARS IS TO DIFFERENT THAN "HOW DO I LOOK?"
I don't think so. but if they are in your neck of the woods and your media....We are taught to be dainty here in the USA.Feminine as some would call it. Some people take that to the extreme. Plus, it's available. Make-up,shoes, purses, perfume in all colors of the rainbow etc. Sorry, you're trapped in a world like that, guess we'll just have to put up with it until we find a way of combating it.
that's their nature guys like sports racing and beer while they watch their games how do you look how god created you you wanet see the goddess look int the mirror on the wall who's the best of all
You just made the remark "no matter how much they care about other things..." That should tell you that women care about other things. The way I see it (from the eyes of a woman) is that first of all, women do have goals. Sometimes those goals may be simple, such as graduating from law school or architecture school; and sometimes those goals are a little more complicated because many women know they have to factor in the complication of having and raising children. As a result, some women have less direct ways to aim for things related to careers; and to men, who have the luxury of just following through on their own little personal goals, women often have to find a way to aim to accomplish their many goals (their own and the goals that affect existing or future children). As far as hobbies go, I, personally find hobbies small-minded. My "hobby" is researching educational issues, and my aim is to eventually put together a book with backing from people with the appropriate credentials. I have no interest in planting flowers, woodworking, taking pictures, doing crafts or building a tackle box as a hobby. Also, women don't have a lot of time to pursue hobbies anyway. Grown women are often the ones to take care of the children (their educational and pediatric needs, as well as the daily care), take care of most of the housework, study for and/or work in a career or else a job that requires hard work but offers low pay, manage finances, do things like buy gifts for all the in-laws when the occasion arises, plan family trips, and on and on and on. AND on top of that, women are generally expected by our society to also take care of their own fitness and appearance. Some women are so exhausted they may eat extra calories in order to get the energy they need to get everything done, so the fitness thing doesn't always work; but such women often have a man in their life who sits on a sofa and sleeps while all kinds of things need to be done. Men have more testerone, and that gives them the luxury of having a certain degree of confidence in themselves, and that confidence may or may not be warranted. Women don't have that. Women need to find their confidence in their mind and gain their confidence from trying to see if they can look their best. There is an evolutionary hard-wiring that says women have to attract the eyes of men, that the most attractive or interesting-looking or young-looking woman "wins", and even that the softer features of a woman may bring on responses from people she doesn't want. As a result, women may find that by applying eye make-up that makes them look less vulnerable or by wearing high heels that make then less petite they get different treatment than they would if they just didn't wear make-up and didn't dress in a way that makes them look more "up and coming" (or else more glamourous and less like a little girl or an unkept housewife). Our society has a real contempt for women who are not attractive. Without the confidence and "puffed up" feeling men have as a reuslt of their testosterone, women do what they feel helps them to be less vulnerable to attacks and contempt. Finally, most women think in a "big picture" way. They have to think about their own futures, the future of their children (or what they'll do when they have children), their career or job aspirations, any secret aspirations they may have with regard to secret passions they aren't ready to share yet, their houses, their finances, their health, the health of their families, their parents (if they're aging), and on and on. Women have to think in a way that allows them to think about the big picture and all the little pictures within that picture - and they do all that while still having the ability to try to also be as pretty as they can be just because feeling pretty makes a woman feel more feminine. Women sometimes don't even both trying to explain to men all the things they have on their minds, all their concerns, all their plans, and whether or not they secretly would like to start a business some day but don't want to talk about it because they don't want to hear a man's unsolicited advice on it. If you studied up on the potential of female brains to develop in ways that are more ahead of and more complex than the brains of males while - at the same time - female brains are entirely capable of being well above average in math/science; you would realize that the reason you think the fact that women care about their appearance is shallow is because you are not capable of understanding a woman's thinking. I'm not saying there aren't shallow women any more than I'm not saying there are also shallow men. I'm saying that wearing nice shoes and make-up is not necessarily the indication that a woman is shallow. Maybe some women just know that you aren't the person to share their deep thoughts, dreams, aspirations and ponderings with. Women are often more skilled than men are when it comes to "human intelligence". They care more about people and the world and the universe and anything having to do with any of those than they care about the "small" things such as hobbies like collecting stamps, coins or Pez dispensers. Women tend to be less showy than men when it comes to whether they need to show off their abilities, and they don't tend to care what other people think about them. There are people who get whole degrees in child development, and yet women (if they want to do a good job) have to figure out a way to get all kinds of education about child development while they are having children, having jobs, running homes or businesses, and planning their future. Women also have a natural little thing where they can be doing a job and listening for all three children outside at the same time. Not long ago I decided to take a rest from everything in my life (and I haven't mentioned any of the serious things I've had to be working on over the last several years), and just paint a little oval piece of wood thing and glue some flowers on it for my front door. Women often, for some reason, find it important to keep their homes looking friendly to those who ring the doorbell. I whipped up a decoration without much effort, hung it up when it dried, and thought about how I was wasting my time on such a frivolous thing. Flowers on the table, pretty little things hanging on the doors, a happy-looking tea kettle to make the kitchen look more cheerful - those are often also things women have to think about. They think about the atmosphere they provide for their families and guest, and they may even find some very nice alone moments in that happy kitchen before anyone else is awake or after they've all gone to sleep. My point is that sometimes things that look frivolous and shallow at first glance really aren't. You are very right about guys. They have at the center of their lives their own little goals and their own little hobbies. They get to live much as they did as children, with the exception of having to go to work rather than out to play. I am not sayhing that all men are shallow. As part of my "depth" I have managed to raise two very unshallow, decent, thoughtful sons and a brilliant, beautiful daughter who - yes - wears make-up and pretty shoes. Shallow is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe the women you know are shallow. Maybe, though, they aren't. Maybe the problem is that what is shallow about them is nothing more than what is shallow in the eye of you, as a beholder. I've lived in a time when women thought (and were told) that the only way they could be taken seriously and get ahead was to not be feminine and try to be more like men. Some women have done that and gotten ahead. Many more who chose not to give up what they are have paid the consequences. They pay those consequences on a daily basis when dealing with people who have no idea of how strong, how thoughtful, how intelligent, or how tough they are behind those unintimidating feminine looks. I always believed that I would show the world that women who are feminine may actually be more intelligent and more thoughtful and more capable than many, many men are; and that's partly why I took the time to write all this. Remember when you were a little kid, and your parents did things you didn't understand until, maybe, you grew up and finally did? Your parents may have had to live with your questions or even resentment at the time because they knew some day you'd understand. That's what women live with every day of their life even now, in 2006 - people who don't understand, who resent, who hate, and who look down on for no reason other than that those people are not intelligent enough or don't have enough understanding of what women really are.
If all women are materialistc, then why do all men enjoy watching women and like going to strip clubs, etc... Most men want women to look a certain way.
First off, I think that the remarks you said were not just offensive but discriminating. It's the same as saying that all men are jerks. To generalised the entire female population over one bad incident is a little harsh and poor judgment on your part. In fact some women couldn't care less about makeup and all the other things you said. Why? Because some couldn't afford it. What makes you think men are not materialistic? How else do you explain the many cars, planes and boats? Aren't those material things?! And there're some men who're extremely high maintenance even more so than women. They spend loads on facials, manicures, hair treatments and wardrobe oh yeah shoes! So really men & women both acquire the same things just a different way to go about it.
For them its a relice for them and it makes them feel good. And weather you believe it or not there doing it for us some the best thing for you to do is notice and complement her.
not me in this house it is my spouse. I am happy if the bills are paid the kids have what they need and i have clean cloths . I have always been that way and probably why i only have 2 friends
They need to fill the empty spaces with things that make them feel good...because the majority of men just aren't capable of making them feel worthy. Don't we all just want validation??
Hey Mateo....I wish I had more time to answer this question....but I am too busy out digging up water caps, and spray painting Fire Hydrants.....pulling weeds from in between the roads and sidewalks, and then I have to mow about six vacant lots, not to mention the trash that others leave throughout the neighborhood, HOWEVER.....Being 5'3'', 105 pounds, well proportioned for my height, and look awesome in a pair of bobby socks and construction boots.....(hang on)....my make-up is running from all the sweat....OK, where was I? OH...What Hobbies?? Goals??