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What advice would you give someone who is struggling with the point in life?

ok. so you realised there was a problem with issues in your life in 1992. You got a good education. Got a good job, nothing came of it. Got another job, which you, thought, broadened your horizons. Nothing came of it. 3 jobs later, you change careers. meanwhile, you go back to college, retrain, have the time of your life, leave to embark on yet another "great" career. Meanwhile, you take up 3 new hobbies, join new associations etc etc. All your friends from college move on. you get the "job of your dreams" turn round 3 times and everything is just the same as in 1992. except now you're 29, still single, and bored, disillusioned and lonely. What the hell else can I do??

Public Comments

1. just keep on going... remember life is a journey not a destination.
2. Wow. I can just see my future in your question. I am some years younger than you, but heading fast your way. I have no other advice, but to keep on trying. It's better to find the job of your dreams at 40 than to be stuck in the one you hate in your 20s. Don't be disillusioned, there are so many careers to try, one of them will make you happy some day.
3. this problem was meant specifically for you cuz only you can overcome it, have faith in that
4. Make new friends. It sounds to me like you haven't even tried having some real fun, and blowing everything off for a change. Consider actual hobbies and interests such as cooking painting, writing, rock-climbing. Be a part of a group or club that does something you like. First off, I think that age and time are illusions, though this may not help you any. Everything we have experienced is through a perception. Your perception can change like the wind. You are still very young and should not mind starting your life over and over and over again, meeting new people, creating new experiences, travelling to foreign countries, tasting strange new foods, and most of all, I believe that no matter who you are there are girls that can't wait to meet and get to know you, all around the world. It is hard to be in this country with all of the competition. Consider teaching English in a another country where you will be valued more.
5. Life gets like that for most everyone at some point. You are certainly not alone. I've been there more than once, but can tell you that it passes unless you focus totally on the negatives. You are only 29 and looking for something that is not in your life. I think you pretty much summed up what you are searching for. You realized you had a problem with issues in your life. What were they at that time? Lack of education which you remedied? Then you got a job, then another, and 3 more after that. Each time you say nothing came of it. Stop there. Analyze exactly what you mean by "nothing came of it". Was there no future in the jobs or did you want to start at the top or advance quickly and couldn't? What were your expectations which did not materialise in each of those jobs? Next, you go back to college and, maybe this is one of your key statements to what you are looking for------"had the time of your life". Then you begin another "great" career. Great appears to be a dismal word you are using to describe your new job. You took up hobbies, joined new associations, etc. and then your friends moved on. The "job of your dreams" is obviously not. Same, same. Single, bored, disillusioned and lonely. So..........what do you see in what you wrote above? You seemed happy in college. Why? What made you happy there and not while working? Was it just the fact that you weren't working and had no job responsibilities? Was it that your friends were close and you weren't lonely? It sounds like you are mostly saying you are single and lonely. It may not be the jobs that are so boring as the fact that you are looking for someone to share your life with. If you haven't found that right person yet, keep looking. You'll find someone just right for yourself when the time is right. There's a perfect match for you even if you haven't found them yet. If it's just the jobs you don't like, try to analyze what it is you want from them. With your various jobs, you have experience and probably much to offer. Keep your eyes open for one that you can be happy with, but remember that job hopping can be only searching for something you haven't found yet. You need to determine what that is. I have found that the more you focus on yourself, the less happy you usually are. When you get to feeling negative, try doing something nice for others for a week or two. It works wonders. Good luck to you for happier times. Hope I helped a little.